Still, it’s a curse. There’s nothing wrong with getting everything in cash. And it’s not a lie, a whine, or a cheap excuse. Ultimately, we describe it as a kind of exaggeration and mental waste – from the moment we are affected, that is, voluntarily spoiled by no one – or even extreme sensitivity.
Therefore, most people tend to pass by conversations, actions, or words every day that can break security barriers, stigmatize them, or change elements of their personality. Rationally they say that there are people in the world who like us and people who don’t, who know how to talk to us and who don’t, and of course we can offer social comments and advice. I understand that there are people who accept – this probably won’t – the above without changing anything, other people’s criticism.
Some of them, unfortunately or fortunately, count every word with an eyedropper. So, in effect, not letting every word fall on the floor will make you more emotionally intelligent, more communicative, and more prepared. This is because I am always looking for a deeper reason for what is happening in my life and for people who have a different outlook on life than I do.
You feed your thinking and usually try to see all perspectives and stick to your own logic. You are a fine person too! You leave nothing to chance and generously share your inner world with family, friends and relationships. They are definitely the definition of “Details make the difference!”
But sit down. After all, too much looking, too much analysis, too much attention to detail isn’t all that good, is it? Surely this thought has crossed your mind a thousand times. Anyway, you continue your metaphor. See, the overload your mind creates even from the tiniest of thoughts is overwhelming.
So people who carry everything in cash worry about what they can swallow. Maybe someone tells you to “do more” or “I don’t like the way you think” and you think about it to yourself and torture yourself for hours. Maybe days.
And because the details that make the world different to them seem inconsequential to others, these (somewhat overly) sensitive people believe that everyone is just like them. It can lead to endless paranoia and oblivion. In addition, the details insist on a process that endlessly pursues the typical “perfection” and ultimately leads to the elusive, pleasing those around them.
Excessive anxiety and worry (fearful anticipation)
All people experience stressful emotions from time to time. Day-to-day situations, rigid schedules, scheduled commitments, and generally problematic situations create tension and even anxiety. The presence of moderately stressful emotions can often help a person improve because it keeps them in a “wakeful” state and allows them to focus on the challenges they face. If you’re experiencing excessive tension and anxiety that you can’t handle, you may have Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). The main feature of GAD is excessive anxiety, sadness, and worry that a person finds difficult to control in the absence of the specific symptoms that characterize phobias and panic disorders. GAD sufferers usually worry excessively about everyday issues such as work, finances, family health, relationships, car problems, etc. Children also worry and always approve of natural and national disasters. and encouragement, which may seem unsettling.
The person feels that it is difficult to control their worry
Our unconscious lives define us. And the more someone tries to control their life and the people around them, the more conflict they create within themselves. In order for our subconscious mind to stop defining us, we must seek to know it. We are not like a paystub generator. In other words, to know our inner life. Let’s see what happens to us. What kind of emotional fabric are we made of? How did situations affect us when we were children, and how do they affect us today? Hate, anger, anger, frustration, loss, all the different special situations that hit everyone. The emotional difficulties that arose under the circumstances that each was going through went unnoticed. Pushed back so as not to be offensive. Most people think they can cope with it because they can remember the events that affected them. But the true feelings associated with the event simply cannot be kept in mind.
It doesn’t matter if you remember something, it doesn’t matter what emotion it is associated with. How do you actually feel about that? When I ask people about my relationship with my parents, the first things they tell me are: “Well, no problem” means of course there are many problems underneath. Firstly, because there are no relationships that are only good, and secondly, because all problems also affect family relationships. I know they lied to themselves back then. I know they are defending their true feelings. When I insist on explaining it in more detail, some people angrily reply:
“But she said yes, what more can I say?” Everything is so beautifully and angelically finished and “well” placed on the red carpet and the Philharmonic Orchestra playing, so why are you mad? It’s time to start.
Therapeutic work focuses on destructive thoughts and beliefs, but also on developing strategies for recognizing, understanding, and coping with situations characterized by doubt and uncertainty. Uncertainty is a component of life, so patients learn to tolerate uncertainty, work on control-related issues, and manage their emotions and fears.
- Learn to distinguish between real danger and destructive thoughts.
- Life prevention can help, but certainly not everything can be predicted.
- Normal levels of stress invigorate a person, but too much stress can confuse them, and long-term stress can leave them mentally and physically exhausted.
- Thinking negatively about future situations so as not to care about possible negative outcomes can create a pessimistic attitude and weaken positive outcomes as well.
- Think and act on what you can control and influence. Maybe it’s slight, but uncertainty doesn’t want to scare people. I want cool people so I can think of alternative solutions.
When we look at the forest, we often feel small and scared, but when we look at the trees, our lives, we can make decisions more calmly.